Watching reality shows used to be my guilty pleasure. I couldn’t help but notice, though, how the women started to rise in fame and the higher they went the less respect they had for their husbands. I won’t name anyone specifically, but if you have watched the show, you know who fits the description.
It’s bad enough that these women’s relationships are played out on TV screens for the world to see, but what’s even worse is that they show us the ugly parts of the relationships. I know, I know. Everyone blames the video editing for the reason things come across as so drama-filled, but let’s be real. No one can edit an argument that never happened. No one can edit a woman cursing her husband six ways from Sunday.
I don’t understand why the men take it, for one. And for two, I don’t get why no one has stepped up to show how beautiful marriage can be. Sure, each married couple takes turns showing us positive moments in their storyline, but marriage isn’t just made up of sporadic moments of positivity. It is much more intimate and sacred than what we see. After one bad season, women are throwing their marriages to the wind, undergoing extensive surgery, and emerging as “empowered and liberated women” who make their own money and who call their own shots. Especially in the shows featuring African American casts, the family is being broken up right in front of our faces, and we’re so conditioned to be used to it that we aren’t even outraged enough to do something about it.
I won’t go so far as to say that reality shows are the cause for marriages ending, but I will say putting overly emotional people on camera and allowing the world to give their opinions on every aspect of their lives causes an immense amount of pressure that not many can withstand. As a result, divorce has become a standard.
What do you think about women divorcing after being on reality television?
I, for one, will not stand by and watch women give up on their marriages. We can be successful in our careers, and we can maintain a healthy and happy relationship.
I am aNDriea DEnise, the founder and owner of aNDrieaDEnise.com. Though I can be serious at times, I am actually a goofy chick who loves to write, to sing, and to create! In addition to being passionate about helping people create lives they love living, I am passionate about getting my husband to end his love affair with his PlayStation!