Are You A Fool For Staying After Heartbreak?

Are You A Fool For Staying After Heartbreak?

Are you a fool for staying in a relationship, after enduring a heartbreak from cheating, lying, etc? Depending on who you ask, some people would say “YES”, but lucky for you, I am not a member of that choir. I would, instead ask you another question…Are you married? If your answer is “yes”, then my answer is “No, you are not a fool”.

 

Fool for Love?

When you are dating someone, it is almost a no-brainer to break out the moment you are wronged in a major way. You don’t have to stick around and deal with that! BUT when you are married, it is different. You made a different kind of commitment. You promised to stick it out through thick and thin, for better and for worse. I said, in a previous post, that we vow for the things that we already know, and for the things that we will learn in the future. You won’t feel good about some of the things you learn about your spouse, but you can get through it, if you want to do so.

 

Think about a couple that you admire. They may seem like they are so in sync with one another, and that things are beautiful between them. I can guarantee, though, that they have experienced some trying times in their marriage. Strong marriages are made stronger by adversity.

 

 

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Just to be clear, I am not telling you stay with an abusive spouse. You should always do what is best for you and your safety. I am talking about those spouses who haven’t quite fallen in line with the rules of marriage, after saying “I do”.

 

You are not at all a fool for choosing to stay and to continue to love your spouse through a trying time. In fact, you are a brave and honest person. You are honoring your promise to stay for better and for worse.

Why Are Men Of God So Sexy

Why Are Men Of God So Sexy

Why do women find spiritual men so irresistibly sexy? I can recall a few times in my own life where I witnessed a man of God display his love for the creator, and he instantly grew 10x more attractive to me. I know I’m not the only one in this boat, but I may be the only one talking about this. I hear about women throwing themselves at ministers and other men within the church quite often, and as scary as that may sound, I just had to know…Why? Read more

Own Your Stuff: The Importance of Honesty in A Relationship

Own Your Stuff: The Importance of Honesty in A Relationship

You are not a bad person. Making mistakes is just a part of life. You are an imperfect person…we all are imperfect. Relax. I’m not sure what you have experienced in your life that makes you want to defend everything and to be right all of the time, even when you aren’t, but it may be time to simply stop. Take a breath and own your stuff. Be honest with yourself about where you could make some improvements.  Read more

Before You Enter A Relationship

Before You Enter A Relationship

Before you enter a relationship, there is something that you should consider doing first. That is, if you are interested in having a healthy relationship that lasts. Many people skip this one step and go straight for happily ever after, only to find themselves disappointed and alone once again. However, if you want to stop going through the same cycle of falling in and out of love, you should do this.  Read more