Are you a fool for staying in a relationship, after enduring a heartbreak from cheating, lying, etc? Depending on who you ask, some people would say “YES”, but lucky for you, I am not a member of that choir. I would, instead ask you another question…Are you married? If your answer is “yes”, then my answer is “No, you are not a fool”.
Fool for Love?
When you are dating someone, it is almost a no-brainer to break out the moment you are wronged in a major way. You don’t have to stick around and deal with that! BUT when you are married, it is different. You made a different kind of commitment. You promised to stick it out through thick and thin, for better and for worse. I said, in a previous post, that we vow for the things that we already know, and for the things that we will learn in the future. You won’t feel good about some of the things you learn about your spouse, but you can get through it, if you want to do so.
Think about a couple that you admire. They may seem like they are so in sync with one another, and that things are beautiful between them. I can guarantee, though, that they have experienced some trying times in their marriage. Strong marriages are made stronger by adversity.
Just to be clear, I am not telling you stay with an abusive spouse. You should always do what is best for you and your safety. I am talking about those spouses who haven’t quite fallen in line with the rules of marriage, after saying “I do”.
You are not at all a fool for choosing to stay and to continue to love your spouse through a trying time. In fact, you are a brave and honest person. You are honoring your promise to stay for better and for worse.