First published on November 7, 2016 6:48 AM CST by Andriea Denise
Don’t be afraid to try new things. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes. There are some people who never do anything, because they worry so much about messing up. Conditions very rarely are perfect, so you shouldn’t try to force things to be, or wait until they are.
Many people and entrepreneurs have stepped out, made mistakes, and fumbled around, but they found their ground and are successfully doing what they set out to do with their lives. They say that practice makes perfect, but if you are only going over theory in your head, you are missing out on creating something beautiful. No one has ever created the perfect thing, situation, business, etc. on the first try. The beauty of stepping out there is being able to keep trying and perfecting what you’re doing.
I’m not saying to jump out there unprepared. I’m simply saying that once you have prepared and set a plan in place, you should trust yourself enough to get out there and try something new. Don’t worry about how it will turn out. Most likely, you will immediately realize what things can be fixed and what things can remain as they are. No worries, and no fear. Fear will only keep you bound in a realm of doing nothing.
I constantly say that I want to be successful and to make more money, but the moment that things start to change for the better, fear sets in. I have heard a lot about fear of success, but I didn’t know that it was a real thing, until I experienced it myself.
I’m not talking about the butterflies that I get right before I take the stage. I’m talking about a real fear. Every time I book a client and collect payment, a flood of self-doubting thoughts race into my mind. I think Oh crap! This person believes in me and is expecting me to deliver something amazing. I would never put myself out there, if I didn’t think that I could do the work and do it well. But for some reason, I feel anxious.
I work tirelessly to be sure that my client has the best experience and gets the exact results he/she was expecting or better. I haven’t had an unhappy client, but that doesn’t stop me from feeling fearful in the beginning.
So what is the fear of success? Susanne Babbel, a phychologist, believes that the feeling of the excitement of success can be very similar to the same feeling of trauma, and most people confuse the feelings and end up feeling “phobic” about success. She suggests recalling exciting experiences and taking note of the feeling that arises. Then, she suggests recalling an overwhelming experience and taking note of the feelings that arise from that. Read more →
I am going to just assume that you have already heard of the saying “Faith and fear cannot coexist.” Just in case you haven’t heard it by some chance, it means that you have to choose one or the other. You can’t be fearful and be faithful at the same time. It just doesn’t make sense, and it doesn’t work. It’s impossible, in fact. I know that many people, myself included, have said time and time again that nothing is impossible, but this actually is the exception to the rule. Read more →