My Favorite Color Is Purple

My Favorite Color Is Purple

I spent a lot of time, as a child, trying to figure out just who I was on the inside and out. Because my religion dictated what I wore day-to-day, my outward self-expression was a bit stifled. It wasn’t until my early 20s that I started to learn my personal style. As far as who I was on the inside, I struggled to understand my spiritual self, and my self-image was largely determined by whoever I spent the most time with.

 

I know that many young people face the same struggles as I did. The ones who are allowed by the adults in their lives to develop into the unique beings they were meant to be are considered lucky and rare. Though it’s backwards, most adults are still trying to find out who they are and who they want to be, rather than being clear and operating in their purpose for the greater part of their lives. To know yourself serves the world in a much greater capacity than to be lost and confused.

 

My favorite color is purple. I learned this fact as an adult, after I was married. How does one make it 25 years without knowing her favorite color, you may ask? I spent a lot of my years trying to please other people. I tried to make them like me, accept me, be proud of me, etc. I was such a chameleon. I became the person I thought I should be to  impress people.

 

I was a tomboy, and I felt like I was wrong or broken because of it. I loved wrestling around with the boys, playing basketball, and showing off my muscles. I guess nobody really understood me, and made assumptions based on some of my interests. In an attempt to “act” normal, I copied some of the things my sister did and liked. I said that my favorite color was pink, because I figured it was the most feminine, and I was tired of getting brown and black clothing as gifts.

 

It took a lot of soul searching and life experiences for me to commit to being true to myself and to being honest to the rest of the world. In addition to learning that my actual favorite color was purple, I learned that I prefer to eat differently from the way I had learned to eat growing up. I learned that I prefer to surround myself with people different from the people that I grew up around. I also learned that I have skills and talents that I was purposed to use to help other people while doing work for God’s kingdom. It is important for you to get to know yourself, down to the most simple details.

 

What things have you learned about yourself, big or small?

The Only Time It’s Okay to Look Back at Your Past

The Only Time It’s Okay to Look Back at Your Past

Are you one of those people who love to sit and reminisce about the past? Anytime friends and families get together, it seems that they spend hours talking about what used to be and what happened way back when. Today, especially in the media, it is almost common place to take a stroll down memory lane in order to dig up a person’s past dirty laundry. Although looking back on some things may seem harmless, there is really only one reason you should ever look back at your past.

The Only Time It’s Okay to Look Back at Your Past

The one and only time you should be looking back is to see how far you’ve come from there. You might believe that you aren’t strong enough and can’t handle certain things, but if you look back, you may discover that you have already overcome those very things. Most likely, those things have even made you a stronger and better person for having experienced them.

 

If you have people in your life who insist on bringing up things from your past that show you in a negative light, or that causes you pain to think about, you might want to rethink your relationship with those people. Your past is just that. You learn from it and move on.

 

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Also read: You Are In Control

 

Don’t continue to look back and live in those moments time and again. Don’t beat yourself up for not knowing something, or for not doing something different. Everything in your life happened exactly the way it was supposed to happen. Otherwise, something different would have occurred. Understand that your past is just a marker in time.

 

Take a moment to think about who you are today. Now, reflect on who you used to be. How far have you come? How much have you grown, since then?

Table for One, Please!

Table for One, Please!

Many people travel in packs, not always because they want to spend time with one another, but because they would just rather not be alone. The thought of ever saying, “Table for one, please”, may seem completely ridiculous. Some even believe that a person out alone is a loser who has no friends. This mentality is one of the main reasons that many relationships come to be that should never and would never be, had at least one person involved been honest to him/herself about why he/she was entering into the relationship to begin with. Read more

Relationships Are Give And Take…Kinda

Relationships Are Give And Take…Kinda


Marriage, like all other relationships are give and take in nature. I admit, sometimes you may feel like you’re doing all the giving, but the other half of your relationship may also feel like he/she is giving a lot more than you. I’ve said this before, but marriage is meshing two sets of habits, upbringings, and preferences. This is never an easy process, because it’s like shedding pieces of yourself in order to live harmoniously with the other person.
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