Are You A Fool For Staying After Heartbreak?

Are You A Fool For Staying After Heartbreak?

Are you a fool for staying in a relationship, after enduring a heartbreak from cheating, lying, etc? Depending on who you ask, some people would say “YES”, but lucky for you, I am not a member of that choir. I would, instead ask you another question…Are you married? If your answer is “yes”, then my answer is “No, you are not a fool”.

 

Fool for Love?

When you are dating someone, it is almost a no-brainer to break out the moment you are wronged in a major way. You don’t have to stick around and deal with that! BUT when you are married, it is different. You made a different kind of commitment. You promised to stick it out through thick and thin, for better and for worse. I said, in a previous post, that we vow for the things that we already know, and for the things that we will learn in the future. You won’t feel good about some of the things you learn about your spouse, but you can get through it, if you want to do so.

 

Think about a couple that you admire. They may seem like they are so in sync with one another, and that things are beautiful between them. I can guarantee, though, that they have experienced some trying times in their marriage. Strong marriages are made stronger by adversity.

 

 

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Just to be clear, I am not telling you stay with an abusive spouse. You should always do what is best for you and your safety. I am talking about those spouses who haven’t quite fallen in line with the rules of marriage, after saying “I do”.

 

You are not at all a fool for choosing to stay and to continue to love your spouse through a trying time. In fact, you are a brave and honest person. You are honoring your promise to stay for better and for worse.

Own Your Stuff: The Importance of Honesty in A Relationship

Own Your Stuff: The Importance of Honesty in A Relationship

You are not a bad person. Making mistakes is just a part of life. You are an imperfect person…we all are imperfect. Relax. I’m not sure what you have experienced in your life that makes you want to defend everything and to be right all of the time, even when you aren’t, but it may be time to simply stop. Take a breath and own your stuff. Be honest with yourself about where you could make some improvements.  Read more

Is Your Relationship Healthy or Damaging?

Is Your Relationship Healthy or Damaging?

I recently witnessed an argument that I have never heard before in my life! I live on a pretty quiet street, so when two men started arguing outside, several people, myself included, were peeking out of their windows, trying to figure out what was going on. For the sake of the story, we’ll call them Guy #1 and Guy #2. Guy #1, who was walking with his wife, witnessed Guy #2 yelling at a woman and calling her names, and I guess he looked as if he was going to physical hurt her as well. So, #1 took it upon himself to confront #2 and defend the woman. Read more

Before You Call It Quits On Your Marriage

Before You Call It Quits On Your Marriage

I know that I have said this before, but I feel it’s important enough to say again that when you enter into a marriage, you are promising to love the other person through the things that you already know and through the things that you don’t know. At some point, there will be things that you will learn about your spouse that you may have a hard time dealing with, but remember the promise that you made.  Read more