I’ve never been a fan of people telling others to stop crying, or worse, to man or woman up, as if men and women don’t have human emotions and need to release from time to time. Instead, I have always felt that crying was healthy. I’ve seen what happens to people when they hold things in and never allow themselves to outwardly show emotion. It gets ugly.
I occasionally have a good cry. Maybe I feel frustrated, sad, etc. but I allow myself to cry. No pity parties here either. I understand that crying doesn’t mean I’m helpless or that I’m looking for someone to have pity on me or solve my problem. It simply means that I felt a way, allowed myself to go through the process of feeling and releasing, and as soon as I’ve emptied my tear ducts and have wiped my eyes, I am ready to tackle my issue head on.
Well, honestly, I’m most likely ready to rest, eat ice cream, and then go tackle my issue, but you get the point. I don’t stay in that space. I refuse to dwell on anything that doesn’t make me feel good or that doesn’t cater to forward movement. Whenever I encounter a person who drones on about his/her problems with no solution in mind, I find a way to get away from them. Especially when the person isn’t open to any positive suggestion. I offer encouragement, but when that is rejected or met with more negative comments, I bolt (which means I politely wrap up the conversation and find some business around the corner).
I protect my psyche and energy at all times. If I can help it, I’m not sticking around negative vibes for too long. My clients are different. They are actually looking for helpful suggestions and action steps they can take toward a more positive outlook. I stick around for them, and help them to work through their negative mindsets. Random negativity is a no-no, however.
It’s okay to cry, to scream, to curl up and go to sleep, but after that, it’s time to get back to it. Let’s go!