I have never been a fan of people telling others to stop crying, or worse, to man or woman up, as if men and women don’t have human emotions and need to release from time to time. Instead, I have always felt that crying was healthy. I’ve seen what happens to people when they hold things in and never allow themselves to outwardly show emotion. It gets ugly.
I occasionally have a good cry whenever I feel frustrated, sad, etc. AND I allow myself to cry. No pity parties. I understand that crying doesn’t mean I’m helpless or that I’m looking for someone to have pity on me or to solve my problem. It simply means that I felt a way, allowed myself to go through the process of feeling and releasing, and as soon as I’ve emptied my tear ducts and have wiped my eyes, I am ready to tackle my issue head on.
Well, honestly, I’m most likely ready to rest, eat ice cream, and then go tackle my issue, but you get the point.
I don’t stay in that space. I refuse to dwell on anything that doesn’t make me feel good or that doesn’t cater to forward movement. Whenever I encounter a person who drones on about his/her problems with no solution in mind, I find a way to get away from them.
Especially when the person isn’t open to any positive suggestion. I offer encouragement, but when that is rejected or met with more negative comments, I bolt (which means I politely wrap up the conversation and find some business around the corner).
I protect my psyche and energy at all times, and you should too. If you can help it, don’t stick around negative vibes for too long.
My clients are different. They are actually looking for helpful suggestions, strategies, and action steps they can take toward a more positive outlook. I stick around for them, and help them to work through their negative mindsets. Random negativity is a no-no, however.
It’s okay to cry, to scream, to curl up and go to sleep, but after that, it’s time to get back to it.
That’s what it’s like to know your purpose and to be on a mission to succeed. You will learn that failure is only temporary on your journey. Crying can be a part of your journey, just as laughing can be. Don’t put too much weight on either one.
Just remember that you are human, and that humans feel these things called emotions. It’s not normal to only feel happy emotions at all times. Sometimes, you will feel sadness, indifference, frustration, and even anger, to name a few.
Allow yourself the courtesy of feeling however you feel. You have the power to elevate your feeling at any time. But in some instances, it is not wise to dismiss your feeling and reach for a higher feeling, if that current feeling could stand to teach you a valuable lesson.
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